My Mom, was the most wonderful person and I learned a lot from her through all her many years of life. All through my life, she taught me wonderful and valuable life lessons. They say children learn what they live, and I did, I think we all do, and I am so very thankful that my Mom and Dad lived so beautifully and showed me how.
Things my Mom would say:
Be thankful for what you do have, and don’t worry about what you do not have. Always do your best and everything will work out, it always does, even if it may not seem like that at the time. Life has disappointments, but things happen for a reason and we should try to find the good in everything. Have patience, and know that just because we may want something or think something is good for us, it may not be good for us, and that we just don’t know it yet. Many things get revealed in time, so give everything time and always do your very best in all you do, no matter what it is.
It doesn’t matter what the task at hand is, it matters your intention and your pride in doing each job with your very best effort. Treat all people the same with love, kindness and sincerity, not because they necessarily deserve it, but because it is a direct reflection of what kind of a person you are. That is what matters, that you know you were nice to each person, no matter what, even if they are not nice to you, be your nice self always, my Mom would say.
How someone treats you speaks volumes about them, and not you, remember that, my Mom would say, and don’t worry about how other people act, because it doesn’t matter, don’t let it bother you.
Character and values speak louder than anything, but character and value speak in a beautifully quiet way, as opposed to rude offensive behavior speaks unpleasantly and loudly.
Possessions mean nothing, its people that matter, and nothing else, because you could have all the wealth in the world but it cannot buy love, kindness, or health and these three things are priceless and should be thought of that way. If something or someone is effecting your health, you must find a way to distance yourself from the situation, if it cannot be corrected and or adjusted to help all involved. It is always best to think of everyone involved, but many people forget to think of themselves. Make sure to take care of yourself, or it puts you at risk of losing the only three things that should be valued, which are love, kindness and health. Put people first always, but remember that includes yourself too. Always give people a chance, and a second chance, a third chances, and as many chances as they need, until it comes to a point that it is clear that there is no other way but to protect yourself, and in doing so, it helps the entire situation including each person in it.
When you know, deep in your heart and in your mind, that you have done everything possible, then you must make a decision to keep the peace inside you, and in the situation, by doing what is best, even if that means making some hard decisions, because I cannot stress enough the only important things in life are health, love, and kindness to everyone.
My mother would always say ‘When something bad happens, don’t worry it won’t last, and when something good happens, cherish it and enjoy it to the fullest because it won’t last either’, the fact is that although this is true, sometimes good or not so good things do last forever, and that’s okay, because it just means it wasn’t meant to be, or that it was meant to be, and that’s okay too.
I believe that God knows everything, and takes care of each one of us, and that He loves each one of us the same, exactly the same. No matter what, even that person who isn’t nice to you, or who has done something horribly wrong to you, yes, that person God loves just the same. Why? You may ask, that doesn’t seem fair, it may seem odd, but that’s how wonderful and perfect God is, that he knows that none of us are perfect and that His #1 most important command is that we love one another, the same, no matter what. It doesn’t mean that we have to be best friends with this person, it doesn’t even mean that we have to spend time with this person, what it does mean that we pray for the best for this person and mean it sincerely.
Nothing lasts forever, except our memories, but only if we keep them alive, which is an active process which requires maintenance and perseverance in wanting to achieve this goal. We all think how could we ever forget wonderful memories of loved ones who have passed away, but we may eventually if we don’t actively make it a part of our lives to remember. It may take decades to forget exactly the specific wonderful memories of our lost loved ones, but slowly, in time, our very specific memories will become more general memories and we may strain to remember all the beautiful details, unless we maintain these memories by making sure we actively remember them and all the wonderful details on a regular basis.
My Mom approached life in the most wonderful way, with child-like excitement about everything and everyone, in all she did. She never lost that magic about her, that some do lose as they age. I always said she was a young person trapped in an old person’s body. She just wanted to have fun and go on adventures with me all the time. I loved that about her. I feel like now she is with me all the time, and I can feel she is with me and it is wonderful that she finally gets to do everything with me just like she always wanted to do. She loved exploring new places and hearing all about my adventures and in the pictures and videos I would show her. Now, my Mom can come along on my adventures with me. I know she is absolutely loving all of it with a great big huge smile on her face and in her heart, finally feeling like she is doing exactly what she wants to do.
I know my Mom had a very wonderful and very long life, but I do believe that it wasn’t until later in her life that she found out about her love of adventure. By the time she found out, she was too old to go on the adventures she wanted to go on, but I did find a handicap hiking trail that I took her on and she loved it. She could walk part of the way until she felt like she had to sit down and I was able to bring the wheelchair on the trail and push my Mom in the wheelchair on the trail and she absolutely loved it, she was in Heaven. Her face lit up like I’d never seen it before. Being in nature and exploring it is such a special place for many, it is for me and it was for my mother, although she found this put later in life.
My Mom, was loved by all who knew her and she made friends easily. She had a beautiful smile and made everyone feel special. She was always so excited to hear or see whatever it was you wanted to show her or tell her, no matter what it was or how mundane, to her it was all wonderful and you could see her eyes sparkle with such enormous love in her eyes and the excitement in her voice.
My Mom and Dad had a lot of love for each other and my Dad was very good to my Mom and treated her with such deep love. They were always holding hands as they watched tv every day and each morning they would dance to the music on the radio as they waited for their coffee in the percolator. My Dad said he put my Mom up a pedestal, where she belonged, and I should too, and I did.
My Mom taught me that its important to fight for the right things and stand up for yourself and what is right. One way she showed this to me was when she convinced the State of New York to allow me to go ahead to the 4th grade, even though I did not meet the required number of days actually present in school, but I did pass all my tests and knew the material well. The reason I missed so much school in the 3rd grade was because I was paralyzed and spent a long time in the hospital. After that, I was at home for a long time recovering, in which I needed to learn everything from scratch again, such as learning how to sit up, how to walk, everything. My body had become so very weak and my mind had temporarily forgotten how to do these things naturally and instinctively, instead my mind knew what to do but I had to actively think it through each movement. My mind was perfect during all of this, thank God, but it was my body that didn’t work and needed to learn everything all over again, almost as if I was an infant, except my brain knew what to do thank God, but my body was no longer knowing without intentionally thinking through every movement and not having the strength to do it since it had been so long just laying in the hospital bed. I am so very grateful for my Mom and all the many wonderful things she has done for me and all the many wonderful memories. I will cherish them all the days of my life.